Broken TrustHave you ever known someone who you really liked and wanted to be around with who told you something you later found out wasn't true? What if that "something" didn't need to be told, yet when you found out, you were happy it was true? What if that "something" that you were so happy about yet didn't need to be told was not true?
Speaking about a hypothetical situation, suppose there is a girl (sorry, I write from the perspective of girls because I don't know much about guys) that longs to be loved. Guess that goes without saying...but suppose this girl thinks this one guy is really cool because he pays attention to her. All girls like the attention of guys, speaking as a general rule.
So, say this girl kind of likes the guy, and then he tells her he is interested in her as a girlfriend. There are some other situations surrounding the statement, but it's a really cool thing, right? Suppose this girl, although she didn't think he liked her as anything but a friend, is flattered by this statement. Suppose this girl has never had a guy like her before that told her.
This girl may be in a precarious position because she now holds this guy's heart in her hand. But she's honored, in a way, to find that he's interested in her. Here comes the interesting part...now suppose this guy, who she's starting to see in a different light because he likes her and she thinks she really likes him, tells her he wasn't telling the truth.
Does that not sound painful? And the worse part to this hypothetical situation (as if it weren't bad enough already) is that this guy has parents and siblings that know she liked him. Now they feel ackward around her, and she feels like she's betrayed them, given them the wrong impression because she did fall for him in a way, but she knows she was wrong.
She feels dirty, tainted. She didn't make plans for their marriage or do anything wrong physically, but she did allow herself to go emotionally farther than she should have, and she regrets it. She didn't do anything morally wrong, but she feels unfaithful to her future husband. She feels as if she's been forced to do something she was consciously avoiding just because of a few careless words.
The funny thing is, now she doesn't feel she can trust this guy because he lied to her once...who's to say everything else he said wasn't a lie? Let's say (to make matters EVEN worse) that this girl trusted this guy and told him some things that she hadn't really planned to. Now she feels dirty even more. She wanted to share this only with a true boyfriend. She knows she was confused, but she feels bad for what she did.
When presenting this hypothetical situation to my best friend, she said that the girl needed to know that the guy wasn't who God had in mind for her. She needed to know what she was looking for in a guy. This girl needed this experience in order to learn more about life, guys, herself, her future, and God.
My heart aches with the thought that there really are girls out there that feel this way. They might not have God in their lives, and they don't know what they're missing. They just know that "something" is not right. Even Christian girls feel this way--at least one girl I know does.v