Well, it is time. Time for another update in the life of Allegra. Hmm... Not a whole lot going on, but I shall share. Perhaps my dear readers will share the latest happenings in their lives as well? (HINT-HINT-HINT)
Umm... Yeah. Definitely. So Dia and I had the ACT yesterday. I bombed the math part. I was silly and didn't answer all the questions before our time was up. Oy vey. It was impossible, though, for anyone less than a genius. (Which, I happen to know, I am not.) We had 60 minutes for 60 questions. If you do the math, that means you have approximately 1 minute/question. That's too little for the average population.
Had a math quiz today, on which I got 90%. That always makes me happy. Makes up for the 0% I got by missing a quiz, thanks to a speech and debate tournament.
We're celebrating a friend's 15th birthday tomorrow night. That will be fun too. Our school is having prom this Saturday, but we signed up too late (loooooong story....), and I'd really like to go to another dance with cool people I know better. We shall see what God has in store, though.
What are the key elements in a romantic relationship? I believe it is three-fold. Feel free to disagree and/or discuss.
1. Trust. Trust is essential to ANY relationship. I've managed to wreck the trust given me by my parents and other loved ones several times, and let me tell you, it is NOT fun. Be open and honest with the people you love. Even if it means telling them stuff that is hard. I'm still rather a chicken and don't say as much as I probably should sometimes. It's a fine balance between saying too much (a.k.a. something like "I hate your guts!" when I'm particularly mad and/or the other person is particularly odious at that moment--I know--never!!!), and saying too little (a.k.a. not telling my parents, "I'd love some breathing room...")
2. Being willing to give and ask for forgiveness. When the one you love says something particularly nasty and biting (and trust me--for me, it isn't hard for anyone to say something that hurts me...I'm working on that still), you need to be willing to forgive them. Whole-heartedly. Not begrudgingly. If you truly love them, forgiveness is always possible.
When I am particularly evil, say stuff that would make a sailor blush, or am just insensitive to others' needs, I need to ask the other person's forgiveness. The other person may say something cruel in return, but if I started it, I need to accept the fact that they were simply responding, and take the responsibility for the argument on my shoulders.
There are times when I am pretty sure I was not the party who did wrong. At least, I didn't START it... :P But still, taking the blame and asking forgiveness for my part in the argument/disagreement is huge. It's a really good lesson for me, because I like to prove how I'm right and the other person is wrong. I'm always right, or didn't you know? ;)
3. Finally, good communication. I'm not very good at this one. Isn't it funny how you can be talking to someone, and all of the sudden you wonder what you just said? Or maybe it doesn't happen to anyone else... When I put my mind in auto-pilot or am seeking self-satisfaction, my words never enrich anyone. The opposite, however, is telling the other party how you feel so that they know what's going on with you. This is important. If you have a problem with the other person, something that's been bugging you, TELL THEM!!!!! Get it out in the open, in a kind manner, and discuss it. It's amazing what this does.
I need to go clean my room, do dishes, math homework, English homework, etc., but I leave you with that to chew on. Thanks for taking the time to read it!
God bless you!